I find myself less and less interested in looking to her for anything beyond a physical connection. By physical, I do not even mean sexual. I mean closeness.
She does not see me. The more “conversations” that we have, the more I see the lack of interest in really understanding me. I put that in air quotes because that’s what they are, empty.
I feel the need to dance around and take the long way in conversations. I know I shouldn’t do it bc it’s not helpful. However, it feels like hey interest lie more in locating flaws and reasons I’m not enough than they do in really seeing me and knowing me.
I won’t even tell a direct story about my day because I feel like she is going to find new things to go “ah ha” why would I want you when you do this?
I used to really fall into that. I felt like her vision of my worth was starting to define my actual worth. I was silly then. I have learned that she doesn’t have any say in my worth. I, like everyone else, am perfect for who I am supposed to be and be loved by.
The fact that I deal with this with her makes me feel vulnerable and confused when my friend is really seeing me. She sees my flaws and she, seemingly, accepts them.
Now, I know that it’s easy for someone to feel like that before they have any part of you. I’m not blind to that at all and it doesn’t create a desire to leave but it does create a frustration where I am that is unfair to both my “partner” and myself.
It always seems to happen that way tho. As soon as things seem foggy at home, someone comes and offers up what is missing.
One might think this is bc I’m looking. I’m not. I realized, after my domestic violence situation, that people are drawn to weaknesses. It seems they come more when you are weak than strong.
When I was sad and hurting, feeling alone and confused, so many people seemed to notice me and approach me and try to get into my life. I think I just looked like I needed a friend.
Hell, maybe I put off these ‘I want to cheat on my partner’ vibes. I hope not bc it’s not my intention. But, as we grow, we learn ourselves. We learn what has and has not worked. We learn what we need and want.
I want to be free. I want to be successful. To me, that means that I am doing what puts a smile on my face, and at least one other person’s, each and every day.